Today, exactly 10 years ago I arrived in the United States. I meant to stay for only a year as an AuPair, but 10 years later I am still here and I have created my life in the states. Every day I am grateful for Skype and being able to video call my parents and brother (otherwise I probably wouldn’t have lasted this long). I am grateful that my parents, my brother and my best friend were able to come visit me, and I am grateful to be able to visit them. I obtained my GED (High School Diploma), my Associates Degree with honors Magna Cum Laude, and am currently pursuing my Bachelors Degree at Rutgers University (I’m graduating May 2021). I’ll be 31 years old.

I also got married, and divorced from my abuser [my survivor story]. During those 3 years (two years married, one of those years separated; one year of court dates for a restraining order and assault; and PTSD therapy) I wasn’t able to physically see my parents, brother or best friend from Germany. But their love and support was always present, even though they were thousands of miles away. And I am grateful for my support system in the states!

10 lessons I’ve learned living in the states:

1. Always go with the choice that scares you the most, because that’s the one that is going to help you grow.
2. Gratitude and a positive mindset can change your life.
3. It is okay to ask for help.
4. Everything works out exactly how and when it is supposed to.
5. Be patient with yourself and your growth, knowing that good things take time.
6. Not all classrooms have four walls.
7. Turn your pain into your power. You are a survivor setting the world on fire with your truth. You never know who needs your light, your warmth and courage.
8. Forgive others, not because they deserve forgiveness, but because you deserve peace. You have to forgive yourself too, in order to be able to move on.
9. You are stronger and more resilient than you think. Keep going!
10. Always look for the positive in every situation. Ask yourself “what is this trying to teach me?”

Sincerely, Joëlle

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